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I started this website to document my search for transformational experiences and connections, from my home town of Auckland and beyond. Here I will showcase life-changing workshops that I am facilitating, mentors I have had the pleasure to meet, and experiences that inspire me.
From as young as I can remember this world has just never made sense. As a child I was shy and reflective in nature, and could not comprehend or make sense of the living experience….the meaning or purpose of life, as I viewed it. I carried a lot of fear and anxiety, not related to any conditioning, but synchronistic with an inquisitive mind and an early restless spirit seeking answers.
I learned to hide that fear by developing a coping personality that I could present to the outside and make my way in the World, as, although I held those fears tight, I understood at a very early age that in order to succeed in the world there were rules, normalities, expectations, and games, like chess that within one would need to master the strategies and techniques to win. I realised that relationships would be essential to make good. How could I have truthful, meaningful relationships when I didn’t concur with the majority and their beliefs, behaviours, etc?
I would dream of the world filling up with rubbish and pollution destroying the environment. I was unable to witness any animal suffering or cruelty, and I watched with horror in the school yard as people and human nature revealed itself in the struggle to gain acceptance, dominance, a place in the overarching hierarchy. Just as other people do, I feared that I would lose my family, safety and security. Fear very much shaped the early part of life, and as we are all aware, when we walk in fear we attract the very thing that we fear the most in many cases. To cut a long story short, there were so many fears that they would later, momentarily, become anaesthetizing.
I went on to seek solace and enjoyment in learning, gaining knowledge and overkilled in the academic arena. I gained qualifications in chemistry, then environmental science, statistics and data management, later rehabilitation, career counselling, and even real estate, the list goes on. I had a thirst for knowledge, and any amount of study was not quenching it.
My undying passion and love for animals eventually saw me convert to veganism and had a huge impact on my life. It demonstrated that a single action of respect born of my spirit could be enough. At that moment in my life I understood clearly, that we can be enough, that every action matters, that the problems of the world can be solved, one person at a time.
Over time and through happenstance, my working career moved from science and engineering to helping people with injury or disability, life coaching, and career guidance. I had found a space for helping people reset and realise their goals. I developed motivational training programmes based on changing mindset and turning intentions into reality. I credit these programmes for fuelling the success of my work and life-changing rewarding outcomes with people. I began to enjoy what I was doing. Life gained some purpose and meaning for me on the work front. 15 years later, after a successful career in the industry, my belief in the power of the mind has grown infinitely. The power of altering mindset to achieve all our personal desires is phenomenal and for me, undeniable.
Having my own beautiful family and watching what they contribute to the world already has been an honour and a blessing.
On reflection, the search for true meaning and purpose in life, the truth, and reality of human existence, has been the single most driving factor in my intellectual and spiritual development, all that has shaped me into the person I am today.
If I was to summarize myself and my life so far, I would say, I am blessed with talent and an infinite ability to create, morph, and evolve, a person blessed with three truly amazing children and an extended family who I love dearly, friends who I cherish, a gift for working with people from any and all walks of life, a passion for seeking the truth at all expense and, a desire to overcome the challenges of being human. That is a lot to be grateful for.
My true desire is to share my experience, strength and hope with others so they can better the quality of their own lives.
It is my firm belief that as individuals we must turn our intention to things that matter and give our energy to worthy causes in order to create the existence that we want.
We need to turn our intention to what we want to create. Transformation, one person at a time, is my great hope for this crazy world.
Sharing one of my favourite short stories.....
The Lesson of The Butterfly
December 10, 2007 by Paulo Coelho
By Paulo Coelho
A man spent hours watching a butterfly struggling to emerge from its cocoon. It managed to make a small hole, but its body was too large to get through it. After a long struggle, it appeared to be exhausted and remained absolutely still.
The man decided to help the butterfly and, with a pair of scissors, he cut open the cocoon, thus releasing the butterfly. However, the butterfly’s body was very small and wrinkled and its wings were all crumpled.
The man continued to watch, hoping that, at any moment, the butterfly would open its wings and fly away. Nothing happened; in fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its brief life dragging around its shrunken body and shrivelled wings, incapable of flight.
What the man – out of kindness and his eagerness to help – had failed to understand was that the tight cocoon and the efforts that the butterfly had to make in order to squeeze out of that tiny hole were Nature’s way of training the butterfly and of strengthening its wings.
Sometimes, a little extra effort is precisely what prepares us for the next obstacle to be faced. Anyone who refuses to make that effort, or gets the wrong sort of help, is left unprepared to fight the next battle and never manages to fly off to their destiny.
(Adapted from a story sent in by Sonaira D’Avila)